Love letter to our oldest

Today I'm thankful for...

Getting some alone time with Lulu

Spending the whole day with my little angel girl, Lourdes

My health

Living in the United States (and having the freedoms I have)

How would you like to change your child's life for the rest of their life? Earlier this year, Lulu and I were asked to do a seemingly simple school project; little did we know that this assignment would end up bringing our family closer together. We were asked, as a school assignment, to write a short letter including our feelings for our oldest son Carter. This story wasn't to be about what Carter might turn out to be 20 or 30 years from now, it was a to be a story of what his parent's true feelings for him are. I think that once you read this, Letter of Love, you will see the power of words put into sentences, and these words can be read again and again throughout your child's lifetime. This was so powerful that Lulu and I are presently writing letters o all four of our children. Please feel free to use the following letter as a template for your child's letter. This letter can be used for any aged child, from infants that will get to read this one day when that have grown, to teens or young adults that can understand how you feel even though you haven't always found the time to voice it.

Lulu and I encourage you to sit down during this holiday season and write your Love Letter? It just might change both your child's view of your love for them, and also you could just opened up that place in your heart that you may not have known was there before?

Here's our letter to Carter:

September 28, 2009

Dear Carter;

On August 18, 2000 it was an amazing day. It was a day we had anticipated and wanted for so long. It was the day we received one of the biggest gifts from God. It was the day you were born. At that moment I knew how much God Loves us. He gave us the opportunity to become mom and dad, to start living a wonderful and special new chapter in our life with you, the new addition to the Wilkerson-Molina Family.

Since that day you have grown into a caring and loving . You have the ability to see someone in need and with encouraging words, you always finds a way to be the person that tells things that make us all feel strong and happy. Just today when mom is not feeling at her best after recovering from medications that will heal but do not feel too great, you said “Mom I am sad for you, I pray for you to feel better’… With these words you made tears and smiles come from our hearts. You are very kind to everyone! You have a great smile that makes people feel better!

Carter we are so proud of what a great big brother you are. We see you encouraging Thomas, when he can’t quite reach the high bars, or is scared to try something new. We love to see you read and play with, Hamilton, and we have many times witness you caring for a booboo that one of you brother have sustained with hugs and love. And we can not forget your love and care for your new little sister Lourdes is so special and gentle.

Carter you have grown to be a mindful and sensitive boy. When and if we have to discipline you (with turns out to be quite infrequently) you become very regretful. We know you care very much about doing and being right most of the time, and if you feel you fall short of the expectations you become sorrowful and apologetic. This makes you, Carter, extremely thoughtful in all your actions and we are so proud of you for this and all your other great values.

But most of all, we enjoy that you are so incredibly affectionate. Our snuggle monster, even at 9 years old, you like to hug and kiss us, mom and dad. We love to smother your cheeks with kisses and tell you how much you are loved. We love to watch you run and play, and grow to this amazing little man. Our first best wish would be that he never out grows this ability to show your love; not only towards your family, but to others that come into your life.

We consider ourselves bless to have a son as bright, smart, healthy, beautiful and loving as you, Carter. You can do anything you set your mind too!

Seeing you smile and looking at your beautiful blue eyes everyday reminds me of all the wonderful blessings God had given us!

When you were little you will say ‘Mom and Dad I love you as big as a tall mountain’… and we will play the game who could say the biggest, tallest or farther thing… Carter…’We love you as big as the universe’… You know you are loved so immensely.

Sent down from God above, especially to fill our home with laughter and with love. You give us so much happiness. We will be always here for you.

We love you, forever

Mommy Lulu & Daddy J